First Letter - Not Good
Posted By: Scott Van Natta 12-10-11
Well, we were so anxious to get a letter from our son at Parris Island (left on Nov 29th 2011 and we missed his call), and yesterday it came. Now we feel worse because he wrote about how horrible it is and how much he hates it and "wants to come home so bad it's killing him." I know everyone on this site said that the first letter would be like that, then it would get better, but that doesn't make it any easier. How do you respond to a letter like that without making him feel worse? Do you ignore the negative and stress the positive (which may make him think we don't care), or acknowledge the negative and possibly make it worse... We ended up sending letters immediately (to get them to him ASAP) and acknowledged how hard it is, but stressed our belief that he can and will overcome the difficulties and make it to graduation. We just want to make sure we don't make things any worse by trying to help and saying the wrong thing.
Now we are hoping that we get another letter soon so that we can see if things are getting better for him. He wanted nothing more than to serve his country as a Marine. How long will it be until he stops regretting/hating being there and sounds positive again?
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