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When or If to Tell

Posted By: Diana Thompson 06-20-11

 
My son just left for boot camp on 6/13/11 and we found out that a good friend of his just died from a swimming accident. I know I won't tell him right away because I know he needs to focus on his training. But should I tell him at all while he is at boot camp or wait until he gets out? I am at a loss and not sure what to do.

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Tammi Sylte Avatar

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Our family sat down and discussed this exact situation prior to my son Tony leaving for bootcamp. He was extremely certain that he did not want to hear of any illness or death unless it was his immediate family, me, his father or sister.... which in that case he would have to come home... I'm not sure if you had this discussion with your son but I wonder if he would feel the same way as my Son? Sorry to hear of his friend passing, hope this is helpful...

Posted by: Tammi Sylte on 07/11/2011

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Caprice Long Avatar

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My son's recruiter told us not to send him any bad news no matter what. I know it sounds cold but he is there to accomplish becoming a Marine. If I were in that situation, I would wait till after graduation.

Posted by: Caprice Long on 07/06/2011

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Jackee Davis Avatar

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Hi Diana, Our twin daughters have both enlisted, one USMC the other US Navy. We discussed how we would handle these situations before they left and they did not want to know unless it was a family member they could come home for. Otherwise, there is nothing they can do about it and it puts them in harms way to be distracted with something they cannot change. They witnessed others be told about cancer diagnosis, death of grandparents, death of pets, loss of homes, etc and they both said that the recruit was never the same and some it destroyed. Your son, nor his friend, would want him to carry that burden during training. After graduation and you celebrate the enormous achievement then you share the sad news with your son. Let him focus and be proud before sharing. I'm very sorry for the loss. I hope this helps.

Posted by: Jackee Davis on 06/25/2011

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Wendy Farmer Avatar

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Diana, I would wait till after Graduation if it were me.

Posted by: Wendy Farmer on 06/21/2011

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Bill Young Avatar

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Diana,

This is a tough situation and I'm sure you will make the best decision. This could be a huge distraction to your son at boot camp. We actually had this conversation with our son before he left for boot camp and we agreed that any bad news would wait until after graduation. My suggestion would be to wait until he gets out of boot camp. He will understand.

Posted by: Bill Young on 06/21/2011

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